Should you have another baby? Our experience with our 4th baby

We already had three happy, healthy children Archie 7, Maisie 5 and Charlie 3. We were so happy and after a battle with depression I was getting back on my feet, I was having a break from teaching and enjoyed being a school run mum and spending time with Charlie. Life seemed perfect!

Little Sister

A few months before Maisie started wishing for a baby sister. She used the wish on her 5th birthday cake, she wished on every dandelion and star in the sky and prayed every night at bedtime. It was probably Maisie that put the idea in our head.

Charlie was due to start nursery in September and the thought of him being our last baby made me feel so sad and I just never felt “done”. I always said to everyone he was definitely my last and while I was in the hustle and bustle of working I really did think that.

Now I had time to sit and think, did I really want to stop at three? Could we push for another? Would it make much difference financially? Can I face the fact that I’ll never be pregnant or have a newborn again?

Maisie was desperate for a sister and obviously we couldn’t promise that the baby would be a boy or a girl. I think if you’re wanting another baby it’s good to think about whether it’s a specific gender you want or if you would be happy either way. If we had another boy that would also be lovely and I didn’t mind at all.

Our Decision

We decided one more baby would be lovely! In February we thought if it happens it happens and if it doesn’t it doesn’t. Nothing happened in February, March or April and we decided it wasn’t meant to be. But in May we went to Dorset for a caravan holiday and we had the best time but I felt a little nauseous while we were there.

When we got back I did a test and I was pregnant!

I was due 31st January 2018 and didn’t want to keep the gender a surprise. Lee booked us a gender scan for my birthday and we found out that we were having a little girl. Maisie wasn’t shocked because “she knew she was a girl, that’s what she asked God for”. We were over the moon! Darcie arrived 5th February 2018!

Darcie has completed our family in ways we never imagined! She’s absolutely perfect and we love being a family of 6!

People ask me all the time if we will have another baby but in all honestly I definitely think we will not be adding to our family. I feel like we manage bringing up four kids really well and we are so happy! (Not that we weren’t before!) but I think looking at our situation now we have enough space in our home, a 7 seater car leaves enough space for the kids and a pushchair and our eldest Archie will be 10 this year and it’s time for us to have more adventures and fun rather than go back to the baby phase.

The Future

I am also a planner and I look ahead to the future a lot! When I’m 40 the kids will be 20, 18, 16 and 12 and I think that will be amazing!

If you’re thinking about having another baby, Good Luck! Everyone’s experience is different. Some people want one child and couldn’t imagine spreading their love further and some people have ten children and want more! Each family is unique and that’s what makes us all so special!

Thank you for reading,

Chloe x

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2 Comments

  1. 18/01/2019 / 7:56 PM

    Loved reading this 💕 and absolutely love seeing your beautiful family grow your an amazing mum! Xxx

    • Chloe Busby
      19/01/2019 / 4:15 PM

      Aww thank you!!! 😘😘

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